There's a ton of new people around here, so . ALLOW ME TO REINTRODUCE MYSELF . My name is Khye. . Pronouns they/them. . Doula (+ childbirth educator + belly binder ), educator, healer, intuitive, community builder, nonbinary femme, yoga practitioner. . I created Kuluntu (community in Xhosa ) Reproductive Justice Center in 2018 as a vehicle through which I exercise my purpose of getting free and freeing other Black women, femmes, nonbinary folx, and girls. . Hang out here and you'll see a lot of 🗣 #alsoreproductivejustice to shine light on RJ topics we don't talk about enough 🔥 #callitagenocide to shine light on the current simultaneous genocides occurring against Black and Indigenous folx in the United States 👩👩👧👧👨👨👧👦decolonized parenting tips 🏢decolonized business practices ✨My intuitive spirituality and my talkative ancestors 💪🏾quotes from badass Black women and femmes 👶🏾cute Black babies . I'm super happy y'all are here! Get comfy, cuz some of the conversations are uncomfy lol . 🌽If you love me, buy me kettle corn in small quantities so my teeth don't fall out. . 🔗Become a member of the Kuluntu for $3/month! Link in bio . . . . . #queerbiz #queerentrepreneur #transentrepreneur #queerbusiness #transbusiness #blackqueerfemme #queerblackownedbusiness #nonbinaryfemme #blackentrepreneurs #healingbusiness #socialentrepreneur #anticapitalistbusiness #doulas #doulasofcolor #doulabusiness #blackdoula #blackdoulasmatter #queerdoula #transdoula #transgenderparent #transparenting #lgbtqfamily #rainbowfamily #twomomsarebetterthanone #queerfamily #queerparent #queerparents #queerparenting
Wow wow wow 🤩 Just look at @ashleigh_nicole_porter rocking these tapestry themed gaffs! Only a few available on the Etsy Shop so be quick before they’re all gone! 🛍💗 Shop Link In Bio! #competition #etsyshop #etsy #etsysellersofinstagram #etsyseller #transsisterhood #transvengersassemble #transgirl #girlslikeus #trans #transparenting #transawareness #transisbeautiful #trangender #tuckingunderwear #mtf #transitiontuesday #tuckingunderwear #nonbinary #gaff #pride #pride 🌈 #loveislove #thirdgender #transwomen #transrightsarehumanrights #thisiswhattranslookslike #transgirlsofinstagram
I am a transgender woman. Just at the very first steps of transitioning. Today, going to work on waxing (thanks mom, for the pain tolerance! ). Already starting to work on my voice. But first an foremost, going to spend the day loving my daughter and reading to her! #love #transparenting
NEW LIMITED EDITION GAFFS🤩 Only a small number of these gorgeous prints available so head over to our Etsy shop ASAP before they’re all gone! 🏃🏻♀️ ‼️SHOP LINK IN BIO‼️ Swipe to see the denim look pair😍😍😍 #competition #etsyshop #etsy #etsysellersofinstagram #etsyseller #transsisterhood #transvengersassemble #transgirl #girlslikeus #trans #transparenting #transawareness #transisbeautiful #trangender #tuckingunderwear #mtf #transitiontuesday #tuckingunderwear #nonbinary #gaff #pride #pride 🌈 #loveislove #thirdgender #transwomen #transrightsarehumanrights #thisiswhattranslookslike #transgirlsofinstagram
All pregnancies need representing and all pregnancies need celebrating 🌈! . . . 📸 @banywood
So proud be a part of this Qmmunity, increasing visibility and building up power for trans, gender non-conforming, and non-binary people. • Join the Trans Visibility March tomorrow Sat. Oct 24th at 1pm at Acacia Park. Bring a mask. Physical distancing with be practiced. • Contact TransParenting @InsideOutYs .org for parents raising #trans #nonbinary and #GNC kids of all ages! • #Qmmunity #TransVisibility #LGBTQ #Queer #BeyondTheGenderBinary #TransParenting #ColoradoSprings • First pic from Pride 2018 😥when we could all be safely together without distance or masks! • Still we rise up! Mask up! And rise up in solidarity with our trans siblings. 🟣⚪️🔵
One of the best parts of my job? Definitely these exchanges 😭🛁🥳 However you met/plan to meet your baby, please remember: You. Grew. A. Life. That. Could. Accommodate. Another. Human. Emotionally, logistically, and financially, that is a Herculean effort, and I see you. I’m proud of you. You can do this ✨ [ID: screenshot of an iMessage chat, received message, which has been ‘loved’ by Kate: “I had a baby in a bathtub. I can do anything.” Kate’s response: “YOU CAN.”] #naturalbirth #empoweredparenting #changeofplans #allsafe #familycenteredbirth #queerdoula #transdoula #lgbtqiafamily #queerparenting #transparenting
Es importante entender al enojo como una emoción secundaria. Al comprender la raíz del enojo, ósea la emoción primaria que lo desencadena, podemos resolver de manera más efectiva las causas del enojo. El enojo es parte de la experiencia humana, no debemos de reprimirlo, si no sentirlo y saber dejarlo ir. Así que la próxima vez que te sientas enojado, usa la emoción a tu favor. Detente un momento a analizar si puedes identificar la emoción previa al enojo. Puede venir desde la tristeza, el miedo o la decepción. Al identificar esta emoción podrás resolver la situación desde un lugar más profundo , el enojo es lo que se ve a simple vista pero te haz preguntado que hay detrás?
Posted @withregram • @transfertility So you want to talk about trans fertility— let's start from the beginning. We're Trans Fertility Co., a project of @collaborateconsulting , founded by trans dad and educator Trystan Reese ( @biffandi ). We're here to provide free, evidence-based, practical resources for the trans community on all things trans fertility, family building, and trans pregnancy— from a video library of first-person experiences to educational articles and beyond! . Trans Fertility Co. also aims to be an essential resource for providers and allies who want to stand with and support trans folks on their fertility journeys. From trainings to academic research, We are just getting started, so give us a follow, send us suggestions and requests for content, and head to our website (link in bio ) to check out our work! We hope you come back to us time and again as you build out your understanding of trans fertility and, just maybe, build your own family! . #transfertility #transgender #transparenting #lgbtqfamilies #nonbinaryparenting
So you want to talk about trans fertility— let's start from the beginning. We're Trans Fertility Co., a project of @collaborateconsulting , founded by trans dad and educator Trystan Reese ( @biffandi ). We're here to provide free, evidence-based, practical resources for the trans community on all things trans fertility, family building, and trans pregnancy— from a video library of first-person experiences to educational articles and beyond! . Trans Fertility Co. also aims to be an essential resource for providers and allies who want to stand with and support trans folks on their fertility journeys. From trainings to academic research, We are just getting started, so give us a follow, send us suggestions and requests for content, and head to our website (link in bio ) to check out our work! We hope you come back to us time and again as you build out your understanding of trans fertility and, just maybe, build your own family! . #transfertility #transgender #transparenting #lgbtqfamilies #nonbinaryparenting
Our monthly, drop-in new parents support group is meeting NEXT TUESDAY 10/27! The group is free with a donation option to support queer/trans perinatal workers. The group is open to queer and trans folks with babies under 18 months. Facilitated by queer and trans birthworkers, this is a space to build community, ask and answer questions, and be seen in the celebrations and challenges of queer family building. Sign-up link is in our bio! . . . Image is a pale green background with abstract shapes and leaves around the border and the LGBTQ Birth logo. Large, blue text reads: New Parent Drop-In Group. Below, dark gray text: Open to all queer and trans folks with babies under 18 months. Meets on zoom last Tuesday of the month. 1:00-2:30pm EST/10:00-11:30am PST Sign up at lgbtqbirth.com . . . #postpartumsupport #queerparenting #newparents #transparenting
EL EGO PARTE 2. Tips para lograr un manejo sano de nuestro ego. 🔥 Observa tu mente. El primer paso es volvernos conscientes de cuáles son nuestros pensamientos habituales, especialmente cuando estamos irritados, impacientes, tristes, etc. 🔥 Aprende a distinguir entre la voz del ego y la realidad de la situación. La conciencia es el pilar para liberarnos del ego, ya que debemos darnos cuanta que los pensamientos y emociones que produce son disfuncionales e innecesarias. Si, por ejemplo, estás en el súper y hay mucha cola puedes elegir entre enojarte y desesperarte o pasar el tiempo con paciencia. 🔥 Reconócelo. Todos tenemos ego, nos guste o no, así que es importante reconocerlo y saber cómo se comporta. El ego es parte de nosotros, pero eso no significa que sea lo que nos identifica y nos relaciona con los demás. 🔥 Piérdele el miedo a la vulnerabilidad. Mostrarnos cómo realmente somos ante el mundo puede ser algo que nos da miedo y el ego nos protege de que la gente nos vea tristes o que sepa que tenemos problemas. Sin embargo, si logramos conquistar este reto podemos lograr relaciones más ínitmas y verdaderas. Inspirado por @eckharttolle
From a sperm donor... ⭐ "I don't usually have trouble articulating how I feel about issues. But my feelings as a donor have often been very difficult to acknowledge or describe. ⭐ Society encourages people to 'do the right thing', especially when it comes to being a good parent. ⭐ But when an adult, especially one who is already a parent, becomes a donor, they are expected to turn off the part of them that makes them want to protect/teach/love their biological offspring. That is now somebody else's job. ⭐ So the donor feels the conflict between their head and their heart. "You gave someone a beautiful gift", some say. You gave away your children", say others. ⭐ Donors made the decision to do what they did. While some donated as young adults and never thought of it again, others think about it every single day. Some would say this is a healthy human response to an artificially manufactured scenario, while others would say, "Let it go, the welfare of those kids is not your business". ⭐ The DC world is a lot more complex than people think." — Sperm donor — ⭐ What are your thoughts?
The nasturtiums in our garden are relentlessly prolific. / I’ve been weeding them hard over the summer but now I’m letting them go / we’ll ferment the seed heads like capers. / when my surgery was cancelled at the start of the pandemic / my partner and I realised it was a window of opportunity / to try and conceive without medical assistance / to turn our misfortune into a possible gift. / I’ve been off hormones now for four months / as testosterone slowly claims my body, symptoms revert. / I watch hard-won gains unravel; dysphoria rises like a tide / probing for cracks in my mental defences. / the closer I come, physically, to the possibility of conception, the harder it gets to imagine the possibility of being a parent. . . . #coviddiaries #nasturtiums #transparenting #queerfamily #capers #wildfermentation #gardenjoy #transhealth #transreproductivejustice #transreproductivehealth #linedrawing #micronpen
Way back about a hundred years ago (in May ), when the school year was ending and all my work travel had been cancelled for the indefinite future, I felt like I had nothing but time to spend with the kids. We gardened in the backyard, ran around at the park, and spent hours wandering the neighborhood smelling flowers and waving at friends through their windows. But as Zoom conferences and education sessions became the new normal, my calendar filled up again and time suddenly became just as precious - if not more-so - than it had been before the pandemic. So now that the big kids are back in virtual school, I l’ve committed to spending every Thursday morning with Leo. Biff gets some quiet time to focus on passion projects, and I get to keep that magic of those unstructured days with him alive. I’m excited to get back “on the road” once it’s safe to travel and hold in-person workshops again - but I’m glad that I get to make these memories with Leo while he’s still little. After all— he’ll never be this age again. . #transparenting #rainbowfamily #daddydays #lgbtq #lgbtfamily #portlandfamily #pandemicparenting
EL EGO PARTE 1. Cuando hablamos de ego, muchas veces pensamos inmediatamente en orgullo o vanidad, sin embargo el ego es mucho más que un sentido “alzado” de nosotros mismos. El ego también puede desencadenar sentimientos de inferioridad o decepción, pues el ego es cualquier imagen que tienes sobre ti mismo que te da un sentido de identidad. Lo que creemos de nosotros mismos y lo que comunicamos a los demás, nos da un sentido de identidad, de ser únicos. Por ejemplo: qué cocinas delicioso, qué eres excelente bailarina, etc. El ego se puede definir como una capa protectora, que funciona como armadura para no dejar entrar a nadie a nuestra verdadera esencia. El ego nos recalca la separación entre nosotros y los demás, se fortalece de quejarse sobre la situación, sobre las demás personas, etc. Cuando utilizamos el ego para resolver problemas o lidiar con nuestras emociones, este se apodera de nosotros y no nos deja pensar claro. Si logramos desapegarnos de nuestro ego, nos será posible mostrar una versión de nosotros mismos más sincera y transparente ante el mundo. Existen estrategias para lograr tener un manejo sano de nuestro ego, espérenlas en la PARTE 2 de este post. Inspirado por @eckharttolle
Hailey loves to read - but even more, she loves be read to. #ad If she could trap me next to her on the sofa to read to her all day, she probably would. But alas, my time and my voice have limits. . Anything that is this entertaining and engrossing with no screens is invaluable these days, and @PinnaAudio has become a favorite in our house for screen-free entertainment time. Pinna is the ONLY ad-free audio streaming service for podcasts, music, and audiobooks curated specifically for kids. . Now when Hailey dying to listen to a great book, she browses Pinna’s enormous audiobook library, which is always being updated. She recently binged the entire collection of “Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls” and has been regaling us with all the history she’s learned about amazing women leaders. . Lucas is also a little bit obsessed with the adventure serial “Shredderman: Secret Identity,” and Biff practices “Relax and Be Happy: Mindfulness for Children (and Teachers and Parents )” with Leo to help him calm down for naptime. . Now that all of us will be cozying up inside as the weather gets wet and wintery, instead of crowding around a screen, we’ll be competing with each other with the “5 for 5 Trivia” game or making craft projects together with “Anytime Art.” . Pinna is an awesome value for the endless amount of content - 30 days free, then only $7.99/month or $79.99/year. Go to pinna.fm and start your free trial today! . @PinnaAudio #PinnaAudio #IC #PinnaKids #rainbowfamily #transparenting
When my trans son first came out, I reached for this book first. While not explicitly about gender identity, it is all about choosing the life you want and need. It’s fun, interactive, and freeing—highly recommend. #transparenting #parenting #transboy #transgirls #transgender #bookstagram #mamabear #kidsbooks #elementaryteacher #acceptance #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #teachershare #parentinglife #parentingtips #kidsbookstagram #kidsreading #bookaddict #readingislife #lgbtfamily #transpride #comingout #lgbt
I have to recommend this book because of the opportunity it presents to talk with kids about gender and what limitations we put on ourselves sometimes. When I read this to my 3 kids under 9, I mentioned afterward that princesses can wear hiking boots (the moral of this story ) AND girls don’t have to be “princesses.” My cisgender girl was sad—she very much wants to be a princess. My trans son came out right then and there—“I don’t want to be a princess, or a girl.” Obviously there’s more to that story and that conversation, and it’s unlikely that every discussion of this book will be so dramatic, but it was literally life-changing for us. Any book that lets you have those conversations is worth reading, I think. #transparenting #parenting #transboy #transgirls #transgender #bookstagram #mamabear #kidsbooks #elementaryteacher #acceptance #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #teachershare #parentinglife #parentingtips #kidsbookstagram #kidsreading #bookaddict #readingislife #lgbtfamily #transpride #comingout
We love this book, because a blue crayon in a red wrapper is a perfect metaphor for how my trans boy is feeling right now. Halfway through the book, he burst out—see? I feel different than I look, too.❤️ Being different than you look is a beautiful surprise in this book, and a superpower that allows you to make the world more beautiful. 🌈 I bought one for us and one for his teacher, because maybe it will help his friends understand how he’s feeling and how beautiful he is, inside and out. 😊 #transparenting #parenting #transboy #transgirls #transgender #bookstagram #mamabear #kidsbooks #elementaryteacher #acceptance #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #teachershare #parentinglife #parentingtips #kidsbookstagram #michaelhall #greenwillowbooks
We love this book right now, because of the message that all kids can play however they want and that all kids have something powerful to contribute to all areas of life. Boys can make amazing caretakers of baby dolls 👶; girls can fix toy cars 🚗 . It’s a simple message of practical acceptance. Highly recommend for parents and preK and elementary school teachers. #transparenting #parenting #transboy #transgirls #transgender #bookstagram #mamabear #kidsbooks #elementaryteacher #acceptance #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #teachershare #parentinglife #parentingtips #kidsbookstagram #afsanehmoradian #freespiritpublishing
34 weeks + 5 days today. I haven't posted in a while because I'm not really comfortable with how I look, and I’ve just been really busy with baby prep and school. Sorry it's not great quality photo. #baby #lgbt #twins #pregnant #pregnancy #queer #nonbinary #bump #pregnantbelly #pregnantlife #babybelly #secondtrimester #pregnancylife #34weeks #34weekspregnant #bumpdate #bumpie #nonbinarypride #pregnantwithtwins #firstpregnancy #teenpregnancy #transhealth #parenttobe #pregnantteen #youngandpregnant #17andpregnant #transparenting #gendercreativeparenting #queerpregnancy
⚠️CAUTION⚠️Extremely Gorgeous Customer Selfie‼️ May cause signs of falling in love, empowerment & wishing you owned a pair of these tucking panties 😍 WOW @maxwelljameson what a stunning picture 🔥📸 These gaffs & more available on our Etsy Shop *LINK IN BIO*🛒 #etsyshop #etsy #etsysellersofinstagram #etsyseller #transsisterhood #transvengersassemble #transgirl #girlslikeus #trans #transparenting #transawareness #transisbeautiful #trangender #tuckingunderwear #mtf #transitiontuesday #tuckingunderwear #nonbinary #gaff #pride #pride 🌈 #loveislove #thirdgender #transwomen #transrightsarehumanrights #thisiswhattranslookslike
EL GOZO DE QUEJARSE. Una de mis psicólogas favoritas @estherperelofficial habla de lo que significa quejarse y me encanta su enfoque. Sobra mencionar que en esta “nueva normalidad” nuestra cotidianidad se ha visto completamente trastornada y esto se acompaña de varias emociones, como la incertidumbre, la ansiedad, la desesperación, etc. Aunque nos aconsejan y tratamos de ser optimistas, muchas veces esto puede resultar agotador. Aquí es donde entra la catarsis maravillosa de quejarse, sí de quejarse. “Estoy aburrido.” “Quiero ir a un restaurante.” “Ya no quiero usar tapabocas.” “Quiero ir a jugar con mis amigos.” ¿Les suenan conocidos? A veces se siente bien quejarse un poco, les da perspectiva a nuestros problemas, una vez más: es CATÁRTICO. Es una manera de sentir que todavía tienes injerencia sobre aspectos de tu vida que no puedes necesariamente controlar. Pero como ustedes bien saben de nada sirve quejarte si no lo puedes hacer con alguien. A continuación, algunos consejos para hacerlo de forma saludable: 😫 Dale espacio a tu familia para que se desahoguen. 😫 Conviértanlo en un juego, el que tenga las mejores quejas sobre la situación ¡gana! (Esto siempre acaba en risas ). 😫 Si tienes hijos puedes poner un buzón de quejas y sugerencias en la casa que todos revisen juntos y si se pueden resolver lleguen a soluciones. Les recomiendo un libro increíble que habla de esto “Born to Kvetch” de Michael Wex.
🗣 Say it louder for the ones in the back!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Assuming that everyone who gives birth identifies as a women is not the ‘norm’ it's transphobic 👎🏼. Let’s make it a habit to use gender neutral language and ask individuals how they’d like to be referred to. Thanks for this reminder @biffandi !
Non-binary swim looks, beach edition 🐟💕 . To protect my scars I had to get a rash guard for this season's outdoor swim life. I've always been trying to swim in the least and wasn't sure I'd like so much garment but... this one from @theseea is so fly, and I am sure not mad at my sleek chest, and let's be real it was a relief to keep my incredibly pale skin protected from the rash I usually get instead of a tan - so now I'm all about it! . And fyi, to other non-binary friends with me in the struggle to find right-gendered swim attire, I also like the trunks I got from @birdwellbeachbritches Even though they do divide their offerings into two genders, they don't make the more fem shaped ones (which I got, for my shapeliness 🍑 ) less practical or less hearty like so many companies, so that's dope. . If @teacollection starts making adult sizes of this epic tiger getup that Sami got for Lila I'll be adding that to my new water wardrobe too. 🐅💦 . Thanks @samialloy for this insanely flattering picture 😍 You do me right 📸 . . . . . #nonbinary #nonbinaryfashion #nonbinaryswimwear #degenderfashion #degenderswimwear #transparenting #transvisibility #transswimmer #theythatslay #theythem #teacollection #seea #birdwellbeachbritches
ZWANGER!!! Wie onze nieuwste aflevering heeft geluisterd weet het al: we zijn in blijde verwachting, Tamar is zwanger!!! Dat betekent dus dat het na al die tijd is gelukt, precies zoals we het wilden: een kindje van ons allebei. Sophie heeft Tamar zwanger gemaakt 😁😁😁 Tamar is nu 8 weken en 4 dagen zwanger. We zitten dus nog middenin de verlengde #8weekwait , de periode waarin alles nog best onzeker is. We kiezen ervoor om het nieuws wel vast met jullie te delen. Want ook als er nog een verdrietig einde aan zou komen hebben we daarbij jullie steun nodig. Gelijk willen we ook even een shoutout doen naar iedereen die nog middenin een loodzwaar traject zit, die ermee heeft moeten stoppen en iedereen die vanwege andere omstandigheden ongewenst kinderloos is. We zien jullie en leven met jullie mee ❤️ Ons Mensje in de Maak is geenszins iets vanzelfsprekends, hen is een geschenk. We gaan het doen!! Als queer, trans-cis en interabled stel een mensje op de wereld zetten. Also a special shoutout to @corysilverberg . You have no idea how much it meant for us to see this little drawing of a queer interabled couple in your book. And the whole book in itself of course - the perfect way to explain to our future child how both their mums are their biological parents. Thank you so much 💖💖💖 #MensjeInDeMaak #Ivf #Icsi #IvfIcsi #IvfGotThis #AlsZwangerWordenNietVanzelfGaat #RozeOuders #TweeMamas #WensMama #WensMamas #WensOuder #RegenboogGezin #NederlandsePodcast #Fertiliteit #Fertiliteitstraject #GehandicaptOuderschap #TransMama #Fertility #Queerfamily #Queerparents #Transparenting #SpoonieMum #DisabledMum #DisabledParenting #LGBT
Holy cow does this whole thing rule. It’s so much work but also being a parent is this amazing prism where you get to re-examine so much of what you are doing and want to do. Here is the finite time I may have. Here are the people I love. How do I get where I want to be so I’m proud of how I’ve spent it and spent enough of it with them. Ok. Go!
Just three people on an adventure of interdimensional love, where your heart just pushes and pulls and reconfigures all the time to be less of a muscle, more of a tesseract. (Also: its our anniversary of 8 years married, 12 years together and I couldn’t be more blown away by this love. )
Questioning whether I actually wanted to keep having boobs felt extra complicated when I was using them in meaningful ways as a nursing parent! I started toying with the idea of buying a binder when M was about eighteen months old and happily nursing. She slowly weaned herself over the following year, and by the time she was 2.5 she was done nursing. By then I had already tried binding for very short lengths of time (be careful about this!!! ) but being done with breastfeeding opened me up to considering more deeply how uncomfortable I felt about my chest. Some of my loved ones were surprised when I first shared about having chest dysphoria, citing breastfeeding as something I had experienced so positively. But the truth is murkier! I wonder if I was so comfortable publicly nursing (like in this photo ) because I was dissociated from my body. I wonder if I loved it because WOW, they actually did something GOOD! And I wonder if any of it was that final egg stage where you throw yourself into AGAB-associated stuff trying to prove to yourself that you fully align (whoops, nope ) and are cis (yeah no ). Or maybe it was positive and negative at the same time. And also it’s okay if I just fully loved it and if that had nothing to do with my gender! That wouldn’t make me less nonbinary or trans. I’m not totally sure and that’s alright. It’s all just another part of my story 😊Resisting binaries. #Chestfeeding #Breastfeeding #TransParenting #NonbinaryParent
🌈🌈🌈 HAPPY PRIDE 🌈🌈🌈 . . Everyone deserves to build the family they want to build with respect and love! . Come talk to us about queer and trans families BECOMING pregnant, PREVENTING pregnancy, CARRYING to term, and BIRTHING in a safe and loving and joyous environment!!! . . #queermidwives #midwiferyislove #happypridemonth #welovepride #queerfamilies #transparenting #transfamilies #birth #labor #pregnancy